Comments on: Am I keeping Tara Anderson?

By: tarable

tarable — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 16:12:59 +0000

Still haven't figured it out. I'm thinking it's going to be one of those things that I finally get around to when the kids are about to enter high school. And yes, that would be the unborn children.

By: Stephanie Hight

Stephanie Hight — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 15:22:35 +0000

Took my husband's name, but never got around to changing it w/social security. When divorce is final, I will finally, legally have his name, which I'm keeping for the kids, but since separation, I've started using my maiden name too, ie Stephanie Goggin Hight. I don't think there is an easy answer to this question and it's v. personal. (Love the “marriage 2.0″ btw). I knew a couple in Idaho who took each of their names and compounded them, which was interesting. Maybe..anagrams?

By: tarable

tarable — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 16:43:13 +0000

Why thank you Tara Anderson. I appreciate the support!

By: Tara Anderson

Tara Anderson — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 15:26:34 +0000

My name is Tara Anderson. Its a fabulous name and I say keep it.

By: Tech Support

Tech Support — Wed, 20 May 2009 19:17:33 +0000

How come God get all the credit before the marriage, after the wedding and as long as the marriage is working?

By: KatoKatonian

KatoKatonian — Thu, 14 May 2009 17:18:44 +0000

I'm just Kato being Kato.

Also, because it was bugging me, said “witch doctor” is named Mola Ram, Thuggee High Priest. Had to look it up.

By: Brett Borders

Brett Borders — Wed, 06 May 2009 15:00:01 +0000

I had started to think about the ramifications of marital name changes for online reputation, accounts, etc. Changing you name to a less common last name than “Anderson” could have branding advantages.

I like the “idea” of the custom to change both names to a family name… but if someone wanted me to change my own name, i would have a harder time with it.

it'd have to be really cool… like “Brett Bond”.. or else I wouldn't want to do it.

On a positive note, I switched my online name from “BrettFromTibet” to my real name about 4 months ago and the transition was painless and surprisingly easy. Took about 2 months and 99.9% of people switched over and adjusted.

By: Amy Segreti

Amy Segreti — Wed, 06 May 2009 01:27:06 +0000

Tara,

I had an interesting question like this come up in my life as well, just not related to marriage. See, my last name is in no way related to me. My mother kept her ex-husbands last name and then bestowed it upon me. It is why I can get away with saying I'm Italian instead of having to explain I'm Chamorro when people whom I have no desire to talk to ask me what my heritage is. So, it's quite useful.

Then, about 3 years ago, I met my dad — and his last name is Atalig, and I really wanted to change my last name to his. Not only because it would make it a lot easier to own land on the remote island in the North Pacific that my family owns a large part of, but because that name is actually in my bloodline. It would mean something… right?

But I won't.

Why?

“Amy Segreti” is just… me. It's more than a title, and more than a professional history. I just feel like I would be changing myself, and Amy Segreti is supposed to live and learn and grow but not change that title. Just, keep evolving.

Anyways. That was probably not very helpful, but I just wanted to share my thoughts. I really enjoyed your post.

By: tarable

tarable — Fri, 01 May 2009 20:34:41 +0000

Wait…so you did change your name? Or you just added a T in front of your married name? You've confused me, Mrs. Chloebear.

By: tarable

tarable — Fri, 01 May 2009 20:33:21 +0000

Yet another reason I love you Kato. With your alias talk and your Indy references, I really can't go wrong with your advice.